Dear Jake the Bachelor,

You are an idiot.  A royal dumas. You really (really, really, really) should've pulled a Jason and "switched" at the finale. Good luck to ya brotha, you're gonna need it.

But I will give big kudos to your mother.  She hit the nail right on the head when she showed so much concern wanting to be sure that all of her daughters-in-law were friends.  I can't tell you how much of a difference it makes in the dynamic makeup of the family, when as adults, all of the sisters-in-law (whether they be your husbands brother's wife or his sister) can be good friends and work together cohesively.  I look around at my own family and those of my good friends and the difference when these women are close and genuinely like each other and are friends is HUGE.  Take a closer look around you and I think you will be surprised at what a big effect these particular relationships have on the make-up of the family dynamic.